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Having overly sentimental and idealistic views about love and relationships can be detrimental to a relationship when these views are not based in reality. So you may be asking yourself, what are some of the s of being a hopeless romantic?
Hopeless romantics expect to get completely swept off of their feet by love, ignoring the fact that a lot of romantic relationships start off as friendships. They also believe in fairy-tale notions of love at first sight which is not always the case. Hopeless romantics also believe in happily-ever-after stories that overlook the difficult realities of all healthy relationships!
If you are a romantic person, there are ways to channel this romantic energy to be hopeful about love, rather than hopeless! There is nothing wrong with being a romantic person, as long as you are setting realistic expectations for your relationships and your loved ones.
Even if you find that you are a helpless romantic, there are things that you can do to tweak your mindset and set yourself up for healthier and more fulfilling relationships. Instead of falling into the trap of being a hopeless romantic, use these tips to be a hopeful romantic. Okay, so if you are a true romantic, it will be pretty easy to be optimistic about love. Instead of setting yourself up for heartbreak by being too optimistic about love, set yourself up for success by reigning in your expectations and being kind to yourself and your partner.
Real love will be messy and you might not always know if you are doing the right thing. You may even want to run from it at times when the going gets tough. Accepting these realities from the beginning will help you manage the peaks and valleys of the relationship. Start being honest with yourself and your needs, download Relish and get started on your relationship self-love journey. Get full access to our expert relationship coaches, therapist approved quizzes, and more free for one week!
While all of these things are a possibility, our lives are less like romcoms than we would like to admit and it often takes more deliberate dating to find a good partner. Instead of waiting for a happenstance situation that some may call fate, take charge of your love life! Get on dating apps, a social sand volleyball team in your city, a book club, let your friends know that you are on the market!
Taking the reins will empower you to take your love life into your own hands. Finding your person can take a lot of trial and error, which means that you should put yourself out there if you are serious about finding your partner. Think about the characteristics that are really important to you. Do you want someone smart? Or super reliable?
Or really funny? Do you want someone who is interested in having kids? Or wants to move around the world with you? Thinking about what you want in a partner will make it easier when you do start to date. Dating can be overwhelming, especially if you are going in with the intention of finding a serious partner.
Keeping your expectations for your partner in the back of your head can help you navigate the dating scene and ensure that you are spending your time wisely. During the early stages of a relationship, you may find that it is easy to get along with most people. And while it can be difficult to bring up more serious things when you are in the fun and lighthearted stage of a relationship for fear of that stage coming to an endit is often the best thing to do to ensure that you and your new partner have a shared vision of the future, or can at least create a shared vision together.
The courtship phase of any relationship is bound to be filled with some drama. Waiting for a text back, choosing the first date spot, sleeping together for the first time, having your first conflict. These are all things that are inherently a little dramatic. In addition to there being drama in the courtship stage, there is also drama during conflicts in every relationship.
Focusing on the drama instead of the events of the problems at hand will make things more heightened than they need to be. Focusing on the drama may also lead you to look for a dramatic reconciliation like you see in the movies. Drama should not define your relationship. The small, everyday aspects of being in a relationship are what makes the relationship strong and what makes it work. Couples everywhere are using Relish to connect, communicate and prioritize their relationship. Learn key insights into your relationship, understand your partner better, and learn ways to increase intimacy and reduce conflict.
This is a terrible mindset to have, and will surely set you up for failure in your relationships. Because while you will probably never find the perfect fit, there are plenty of people out there that can offer things that you are looking for in a partnership. Hopeful romantics understand that a wide variety of people can actually fit the bill and make a great partner, and they hold out hope until they find that person. Instead, stay practical and keep your standards high! A romantic relationship is a relationship in which both partners are well suited and really into one another.
All relationships take hard work. If you go into a relationship expecting it to be all fun and games, you will be sorely disappointed and surprised. Once you are in a relationship, both you and your partner are going to have to put in some serious work to keep the relationship alive. This means communicating effectively, compromising when you need to, setting appropriate boundaries and standing up for yourself, none of which is a walk in the park. Hopeful romantics understand the amount of elbow grease that goes into making a relationship go the distance.
They not only understand the commitment, but are willing to do what it takes to make the relationship work. Like we mentioned before, there are tons of ups and downs in every relationship, even super healthy relationships! Understanding this re: setting realistic expectationsand putting in the work to make things work are the s of a hopeful romantic! This tip is along the same lines as the tip about not romanticizing drama. Relationships are more about small every day actions than they are about dramatic grand gestures.
Putting too much stock into grand gestures that you hope or expect to receive will cause you to overlook the little things that make your relationship great. On the other hand, allowing grand gestures to excuse poor behavior on a day to day basis is also a recipe for disaster.
Hopeless romantics often focus too much on the huge bouquet of flowers or the expensive tie, instead of considering how the everyday actions positive or negative actually indicate the health of a relationship. Alternatively, hopeful romantics understand the ificance of small, consistent acts of kindness and love.
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Everyone knows this. But a lot of hopeless romantics discount the role that they play in relationships because they are so caught up in finding the perfect partner. Helpless romantics often focus too much on their partner, honing in on their strengths and their shortcomings and discounting their own role in the relationship.
Even if you and your partner are a good match, if you are not able to be a good partner, the relationship will not last! Hopeful romantics on the other hand, actively work towards being a good partner to their partner and recognize the vital role they play in the relationship. Hopeful romantics focus more of their energy on what they are bringing to the table in the relationship rather than focussing on what their partner is doing.
Romantic people both hopeless and hopeful often thrive during the honeymoon stage of a relationshipwhen partners are infatuated with one another and often go out of their way to show their love and adoration. The honeymoon phase is often characterized by romantic gestures large and small that provide affirmation and even butterflies.
And while this stage is very fun and carefree, all serious romantic relationships advance past the honeymoon phase, into phases of contentment, disillusionment and long lasting love hopefully that are markedly less romantic than the honeymoon phase. A lot of hopeless romantics have a hard time finding satisfaction in these stages because the lovey dovey-ness of the relationship is over or less present than during the honeymoon phase.
While these phases are less overtly romantic, they are still important for long term romantic relationships. And it is important to recognize that romance can take on different forms. Yes flowers and holding hands are romantic, but there is also something romantic about coming home to your partner after a long day of work and not feeling like you have to impress them. Feeling completely comfortable with another person can be as romantic as a bouquet of flowers. A hopeful romantic understands that relationships need to progress past the honeymoon stage.
Instead of feeling disappointed about the lack of cheesy romance, find the romance in new things like solving a conflict together, or making a big life decision as a couple. Just as you and your partner will change over the course of the relationship, so will your understanding of romance. There is always space for classically romantic gestures like flowers and such, but remember there are other ways that romance can be expressed in long term romantic relationships. A lot of hopeless romantics are looking for the kind of love that they see in romantic comedies.
Instead of looking to rom-coms, or even looking to other relationships in your life that are super romantic, try not to compare your relationship to anything else. Each relationship is unique, and every couple expresses their love in different ways. The trained relationship coaches at Relish can help you and your partner evaluate your relationship, set goals and move towards achieving those goals with manageable, actionable plans.
It is mandatory to procure user consent prior to running these cookies on your website. Here are 10 tips for thinking like a hopeful romantic: 1. Be optimistic and realistic about love Okay, so if you are a true romantic, it will be pretty easy to be optimistic about love. Be willing to put in hard work All relationships take hard work. Believe in your ability to be a good partner A relationship takes two people or more, of course, if you are in polyamorous relationshipsbut it takes at least two. Understand that a relationship changes over time Romantic people both hopeless and hopeful often thrive during the honeymoon stage of a relationshipwhen partners are infatuated with one another and often go out of their way to show their love and adoration.
By Caitlin Killoren on Jul 24, With a degree in Psychology and over a decade of experience, Caitlin has made improving people's relationships both her career and her passion. Blog post 8 Unconventional Tips for a Healthy Relationship.
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